It's almost showtime so that means it's crunch time! Now I know that getting married is one of the most beautiful events that will take place in your life. But let's be real here, it's also one of the most stressful! Yes the adrenaline rush from getting engaged and having the whole world seemingly stop and wait with baited breath for every new update from you and your beau can be downright exhilarating.
But managing all the details, making all the decisions, constantly working and reworking that wedding budget and dealing with bridesmaids and extended relatives flying in can leave many brides to be wishing their "blissful" wedding day was over like yesterday!
I get to know a lot of my brides pretty well. They are amazing, powerful, intelligent and beautiful women who juggle so much and have so many people look up to them. They are planning their wedding while being successful in their careers, helping family members, wearing multiple hats and conquering the world. I've been able to meet so many women that I admire and respect. But I feel the stress that they are under. I literally feel it.
When I am massaging face lotion into their skin before a foundation application...the way they take a deep sigh and close their eyes while sitting in my makeup chair. The cell phone that won't stop ringing with questions about the wedding. It seems like they are always on call with never a free moment. Wanna know how I know? I've been there. I lost 20 pounds before my wedding. You want to know what diet program I was on? I was on the "this wedding is stressing me out" diet!!!
Although the day is about you, sometimes it can feel like it is about everyone else and everyone else's wishes. But you have to remember. You have to remember you are not a robot. You don't have to have everything together and you don't have to be everyone's example of whatever they want to label you with. You are you. You are human. And you need a break sometimes.
You have to trust that everything will work out OK and that you will have an amazing wedding! But in the meantime, you need to give yourself a little self care and self love.
When I am down and burnt out, I have five "go to" relaxation hobbies that help me get back in tune with myself and help my stress level go way down. I hope you will take a break away from the wedding planning, cake tasting and bridesmaid dress drama to try one of these today! After all, you deserve it!
1. Be pampered at the spa. Get a massage!
Now I know that money is tight when you are planning a wedding. But if you can squeeze out a bit, this one will be worth your while. Have you ever had a really good massage? I mean a really good one? I'm talking about that one massage when you fell asleep in the middle and they had to tap you on the shoulder for you to leave. You swore that you doze off just a few moments ago! Not to mention the lovely atmosphere, spa music and essential oils!!! You'll thank me for this one!
Now if money is tight, I have a budget gals spa fix. Get a lavender essential oil and put it in an essential oil diffuser. Put that in one of the main areas of your home and let that loveliness waft through your house. I highly suggest poking around edensgarden.com which is a business that sells essential oils. My personal favorites are Spike Lavender and the essential oil blend "Stress Relief." I use them all the time in my diffuser and mixed in with coconut oil as a skin moisturizer!
Now, go fix a nice hot bath complete with candles and a bag of Epsom salt in the water. You will love me for this one! You'll feel like a million bucks afterwards (caution: if your essential oil diffuser is electrical, DO NOT plug this anywhere close to the bathtub).
2. Go to the movies by yourself
I used to do this all the time while I was in college!!! Sorry this is one of my favorites. Especially if you go in the morning, you may luck out and get an empty movie theatre. Go see your favorite bleeding heart romantic comedy that your fiance would never go see with you! Turn your phone off, enjoy it and savor the moment!
3. Go outside and absorb nature
When is the last time you took a walk just because? When did you go outside and exist in the present moment. Smell the grass. Feel the grass. See the flowers. Hear the birds chirping. Close your eyes and feel the brightness of the sun lighting up the inside of your eyelids. Go live it and experience it. It will refresh your soul! Promise.
4. Have a day of irresponsibility, sleep in and ignore your phone
I say this to myself so very much: "It's not life or death." Will someone die if I don't do x, y or z? Really what is the worst case scenario? I like to imagine the worst case scenario happening and then I just let myself be OK with it. For some reason, this really frees me from worrying about things on my to do list that tend to steal my joy in my free time.
Use this technique when you are overwhelmed. Ignore your phone and detach for a while. Sleep in. Eat cookies in bed. Get some crumbs in there too and channel your childhood! Throw your dirty clothes across the room like you just don't care. And keep your pajamas on all day while you're at it!
You'll be better when you "re-attach" and you'll just pick up the pieces of whatever you dropped when you needed some downtime. It will be OK.
5. Go hang out with a friend/loved one that you haven't seen and talk about everything but the wedding
Our society today is so incredibly isolated. We live and exist through our computers and cell phones. This isn't good for the soul or mind. You'll be surprised how much hanging out with a friend or loved one can pick you up and energize you! Don't hang with the Debbie Downer. Pick someone whose presence makes you happy!
OK ladies. There are some great tips in this blog post! I want you to do yourself a favor and make a promise to yourself to do at least one of them during this next week. I promise that it will help you feel incredible and rejuvenated! Please do let me know which one you ended up doing and let me know how it helped!